Ms. Dating and Discouraged,
Let me start by saying... I get it. I feel you. I’ve been there. We’ve all been there. And yes, I know that most likely doesn’t make you feel any better right now but hear me out.
Anyone currently dating (like actually going out on physical dates with multiple suitors) knows it has its ups and downs. The whole process (dating) at times can be exhilarating but mostly just so damn exhausting!
So you made arrangements to hang out with this guy in hopes that the two of you hit it off and find something more in common than the restaurant you're currently dining at. You've gotten all dolled up and your anxiety is it an all time high because you've already played out every senerio of this date in your mind. You're in deep conversation but still can't ignore that little voice your head "I hope this is going somewhere."
The first date goes well, there’s maybe even a second or third, but eventually there comes a point where one party or maybe even both mutually agree that things just aren’t working out or going to move forward for whatever the reason.
That disappointment you feel now is valid and it’s real. I’ve felt it too. It’s not necessarily the guy but the idea of starting over. Remaining open to the idea of meeting someone new again and again is tough. It becomes all too routine.
What do you do for a living?
Where are you originally from?
What are your hobbies or other interest?
Blah Blah Blah...You go down the typical list of questions to begin to get to know this person. Same ole, same ole routine only to eventually find yourself back at square one. I get it. It’s horrible. It’s discouraging. It down right sucks. But this time around instead of feeling discouraged try to find the beauty in becoming one step closer to finding your perfect match by eliminating the candidates that just didn't fit the bill. And yes he will be the “perfect” match. The perfect match for you that is because God sees fit to provide us with no less than exactly what we need. Knowing that your soulmate is still out there should make it that much more worth it to remain open to the possibilities dating brings.
So eat that pint of ice cream, drink that larger than life glass of wine, and complain to your girlfriends about all your horrible dates. But don’t you dare give up! Trust the process and most importantly the timing of your life.
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